My thoughts on true love

Love can be a simple thing or a complicated matter, depending on the person that you are. This is based on your personality and your thought pattern. If you are a pessimistic person, you might be very troubled over it; if you are simple-minded, you might rush into a relationship without thinking; if you are both (like me), well, no comments here. People have different reasons in the quest for love: Some are digging for their true love, some are searching for a spiritual partner, some are looking for a emotional support to fall back on. Regardless, it is something everyone yearns for, it's in the genes.

And in the quest, there's this legendary character to look out for: "true love". Legend has it that if you are able to find that person, you will be in bliss forever after. But, does this "true love" exists? What if it's just an illusion or a myth conjured up by the ancients to represent the perfect being they have imagined to be, to yearn to be with? What if it's equivalent to the image of the ever powerful, ever compassionate being who represents what we wish to become?

What's defined as "true love"? It's the person that you believe that you love most in this life. This definition itself is debatable. How do you know the person you are going out with is the true love you are looking for? What if along the lines came somebody whom you believe to be your true love? Life is a long road, you cannot expect that the person you will come to marry to be that true love you are looking for. I won't even be surprised if you meet your "true love" decades after your marriage, or even seconds after you got married. Life is full of surprises, unexpected scenarios do turn out in the least expected way you imagined.

If that's the case, you might wonder, then what's the point of getting married? From a technical view, marriage itself is only a legal procedure. From a emotional view, it is a bond between two loving people. The thought of not meeting your true love shouldn't deter you from getting married. Thinking like this will only hold you back throughout your life, and it's not worth it. See, you will never know when you will meet your true love, and the fact that determining who's your true love is as hard as searching for a needle hidden in hay.

Some people define "true love" as the person that you are only romantically interested in. This means that you will love the person wholeheartedly, without any other romantic interests in other people. This definition is questionable; there's only a very thin line between romantic love and other types of love, such as family and friends. When you are friends with somebody, this means that you do have a liking to that person, and the closer the relationship, the more you like him/her. The "like" I'm talking about here is synonymous with "love", so don't get confused. the definition is wrong because if it's truly the way it is, your spouse will be jealous of all your family members and friends, which definitely rarely happens in reality. It's not wrong to like multiple people at the same time, what's important is whether you are able to identify the person you like most and give him/her adequate attention such that the relationship won't go out of hand.

It's not that I do not believe "true love" does not exist, it's just impractical to think about it, and allows it to affect your life. What's the point of brooding over it? Please, you have better things to do besides that. The true love i believe is between two people who can spiritually feels that they are the one for each other. They must have a strong sense of faith in that belief, and able to constantly uphold to it, with utmost commitment. That's to say, whether you are able to find your true love does not exist in the physical world, it exists in your heart, in the 8th dimension.