Love and Lust

Today, according to my lecturer my class was supposed to end early, which was out of my expectations. And so, during the short break, I SMS Phil and Zhiye to meet them for supper, since before that Phil keep telling me to go Geylang. Somehow recently he got an obsession with Geylang, and no it's not because of the chickens, but rather the "shaobing" at the "You Tiao Da Wang". I didn't like the place because of the terrible soya bean milk and beancurd. However I keep declining him, the main reason is because he keep asking me to go Geylang at the most unorthodox timings: When I got a class in the evening. And so instead I coaxed him into eating near his place, at the muslim kopitiam which was my obsession lately, because of the prata kosong. Well, it's just normal prata, but I like it. And I also like the teh alia (ginger tea) over there.

However, when I come back from the break, the lecturer gives us a question to do, which took us 10 mins. All was fine until he starts explaining the answer. It can be finished in less than 5 mins and he took more than double the time to do it. Worse still, his laptop hanged and he had to restart it, resulting in more lost time. I was kinda pissed as it was already difficult to jio ZY out at night since his parents will nag at him. With the delay, ZY decided not to go anymore, and so I can only blame on my far-sightedness.

During the break, I talk to Michelle about Kino, since she's a dog lover. Turns out that Kino is a shitzsu, but not of a pure breed. According to Mich, a pure breed will have "pa jiao" eyes" and lower teeth which keep sticking out. And I thought Shuang got the nickname because she looks like one, but after comparing, I failed to concur. Although probably her dog look like her, and vice versa (you know there's this saying that tell of the similarities in looks between a dog and its owner, and it's pretty true too, i think)

Anyway, even though ZY is not going, I decided to go anyway, although initially I told Phil that I won't be going unless ZY is going (this is one old tactic we used to escape from Phil's clutches, haha). One reason is because i feel like eating my fave prata kosong, another reason... well, forget it.

When Phil and I meet in the kopitiam, I went with my usual order of prata kosong (this time 4), while Phil goes with a small plate of bee hoon goreng ayam. Because I replied too late, Phil had too full of a dinner, which he blames on two pineapple slices he ate, but then decided to accompany me anyway.

Prata was still good, but the curry was quite watery. But I didn't really care as long as the taste is there. We were expecting the ayam (this means chicken) to be diced, since it's supposed to be fried together with the bee hoon, but turn out that they just throw huge chunks of boney chicken into it. Phil find it rather unique, while I find it weird. The bee hoon was too "wet" according to Phil but I didn't care since I like bee hoon anyway. The good thing about it is probably that it's "sweet" enough.

Tried to get Sng down, and it took him around 20 mins to get down, even though his house is VERY near the muslim kopitiam. I asked him, and he told me that he was in the midst of playing Musou Orochi on his PS2 when I called him, and the game cannot be saved at that point. So the time was used to complete the stage and to save the game.

As Sng was talking to a friend he met at the kopitiam, Phil and I went into the topic of love. He was explaining to me and Sng previously about what's love and lust in his view, and I find it rather refreshing, though Sng seems not to agree.

To put it bluntly, lust is not about sex. The reason is simple, when you love somebody, you will want to have sex. It's just that natural. It's an instinct. To Phil, lust is more like a situation where you expect the person you love to love you in return. Because if it's love, you will be able to care for that person without thinking of yourself, but rather place your priority on his/her happiness. So even if that person in the end does not become yours, you are still able to wish for his/her happiness, since you love him/her. I know this sounds like it's from a drama, but I have stated before, this is a blunt summary. Obviously Phil means more than that. He's not Phil for nothing isn't it?

When I (or rather Phil, I assume) say happiness, it refers to the best that the person could have ever achieved, in terms of maturity, physically and emotionally. Yes, sometimes in order to wake the person up, you might need to resort to drastic measures, if that's the only way the person could ever understand, but it's all for his/her good. So technically, in such a situation, yes, you are placing your priority on his/her happiness.

In Sng's viewpoint, this can be rather unrealistic, and to put words in his mouth, trying to be holistic. That may be the case, but I'm still inclined to Phil's idea, even though it's new to me. Not that I never thought of this before, but not on such a level and absolutely I have never thought of such a definition for lust. It didn't occurs to me before, but when I heard the (wise) words, I came to understand and accept it. Although in the past I've been influenced greatly (and trying to resist) by Phil, this time it's not the same case anymore. I'm able to agree with him with my own heart, and for a short period of time, we are actually on the same wavelength, although I suspect that he's matching my wavelength.

We have talked more than this, but now I'm a bit too tired for it, since I'm blogging in the middle of the night.

Interesting talk I had with Phil today (and not forgetting Sng's contributions, though he keep getting suaned by Phil for being out of track). It's too bad you are not there, ZY, or we could have argued more. I look forward to the next serious-talk-cock session.